Everyone has their own grooming routine. It’s difficult to find an activity that anyone is more particular about than this, and it’s important since it’s something we all do every day (or so we hope).
My husband and I are bicoastal. Currently, we’re in Los Angeles and occupying a home that for many years was his bachelor pad. In fact, the first time I ever visited this place, I walked from bathroom to bathroom in search of the bathtub. There was none. Instead, all three bathrooms had very nice showers. When I asked Paul why there was no bathtub, he told me that there used to be a bathtub, but he had it removed.
Now I really don’t get the logic of this. If you have two bathrooms with showers, why spend the money to actually remove the only bathtub? Besides, most bathtubs double as showers anyway.
So arriving back on the west coast last week, I decided that since I’m going to live here, I really need a bathtub. My wonderful husband immediately sprang into action and now a bathtub is in route from Kentucky to California, and Ben, the contractor, is standing by to install it when it arrives.
I’m very happy about this.
Before Paul moved to rectify the situation, however, he did share with me a quote from iconic actress, Bette Davis, in which she opined, “The key to a happy marriage is separate bedrooms and separate bathrooms.” Actually, Paul conveniently left out the bedroom part which is fine anyway because that advice is utterly insane. The bathroom part has some merit to it.
I’m cautious anyway about taking Bette Davis’s advice on marriage. After all, she was married four times and also said, “An affair now and then is good for a marriage. It adds spice, stops it from getting boring . . . I ought to know.” I’m guessing Paul will quit while he’s ahead on the Bette Davis quotes since if he looks further he’ll find that she also said, “[s]trong women only marry weak men,” and “I’d marry again if I found a man who had fifteen million dollars, would sign half to me, and guarantee that he’d be dead within a year.”
Still, in bringing up the bathtub quote, I’d say he was right on the mark.
So now I’m counting down the days until the arrival and installation of my new bathtub. For me, it’s a big deal. Other people I’m sure take a completely different view. They are shower people, and to that I say to each his own.
I also believe this with respect to the other bathing debate looming out there which is how often to bathe. My preference is daily, but I wouldn’t make a big deal about it. And I’m certainly not in the camp of The View’s guest host, Naya Rivera, who said just the other day, “I feel like showering more than once a day or every day is such a white people thing.” Really? In my opinion, making a racial divide over soap and water is just plain weird.
That’s not true with the bathtub versus shower debate which I can honestly say as a bathtub person has legitimate arguments on both sides.
It’s interesting because I find shower people much more judgmental and opinionated than bathtub people. Shower people will say that baths are inferior because “you don’t get clean enough.” Hey, if you are in that bad shape with your hygiene to begin with then there is absolutely no point arguing with you. While I find showers to be an unnecessary shock to the system, I don’t rail against them the way some shower people do about baths.
Here’s the thing with baths. They can not only get you clean and refreshed, but they can be a wonderfully pleasant experience. I love just soaking in my fragrant baby bath soap suds. It’s even better if I have a glass of wine or champagne and a candle going. Now that’s an experience.
How does a shower person compete with that? Try lighting a candle in the shower or sipping champagne. Good luck!
Oh right, I’m not going to judge. We bathtub people are much bigger than that.
So as my bathtub travels across America (likely by train and in Kansas City by now), I’m preparing for its arrival by purchasing wonderful toiletries and making plans for its use.
My advice? Whether it’s showering with Irish Spring or bathing in rose petals, it really doesn’t matter.
To quote the slogan from Nike, “Just do it!”