Ray Rice Advice for Women Everywhere—Don’t Pick a Fight You Can’t Finish

September 13th, 2014

I’m so happy it’s finally the weekend because it’s been Ray Rice Mania all week.

Ray Rice punches out his woman like a caveman after she hits him with weak blows (yet blows all the same) and spits on him, and he then demonstrates how despicable he can be by knocking her out cold.

The casino camera in the elevator captured it all.  Did Rice immediately have a moment of regret and attempt to render aid?  Did he cry out over her motionless body and wail, “What have I done?” (Evidently, whether sincere or not this last one apparently works—ask Oscar Pistorius).

No, Ray did what any caveman would do.  He dragged Janay’s body out of the elevator as though he’d just clubbed her after a day of hunting.

While I find his actions clearly despicable, I have a question (and advice) for his then fiancé and now wife, Janay Rice.

Why start a fight you clearly can’t win?  Even if he started it, why continue?  It’s just dumb.

I think if you’re going to fight you need to be prepared to win.  As Wyatt Earp famously said, “Don’t bring a knife to the O.K. Corral.” Okay, I made that up, but someone wisely said “don’t bring a knife to a gunfight” and that’s good advice.

Above all, never fight a guy twice your size unless you know karate or have a gun or are an expert in ball kicking which is my personal area of expertise.  Personally, I would have taken Ray Rice to the floor and had him begging for his mommy.

That is, of course, if I’d have been so stupid as to start something in the first place.  And if, for some strange reason, I had a weak moment (or a few cocktails—same thing) and I had hit him or spit in his face, I would have been prepared to finish the fight.

For starters, I’d never hit anyone in an elevator.  It’s Street Fighting 101. In an elevator, you have absolutely no room to maneuver.  I would also be trained in martial arts so that if he tried to lay a hand on me, he’d be the one dragged out of the elevator unconscious.

What bothers me the most about the entire issue is that the law in many states doesn’t allow a woman to really defend herself.  If Ray Rice knew Janay carried a concealed weapon, do you think he would have laid a hand on her?

I don’t.

Some parts of the country (like New York City) have no real appreciation for the Second Amendment and that leaves women vulnerable.  Instead, women are supposed to rely on the 911 operator or a Good Samaritan to save them.

Here’s my advice to women everywhere including Janay Rice.

Take up kick boxing, martial arts, or at least carry the biggest can of mace you can find and be prepared to pummel the next jerk who tries to do you harm.