Every year, it seems like Valentine’s Day just sneaks up on me. Maybe that’s because I’ve never been the one who has to plan for the big day. I just enjoy it.
If you’re madly in love and even ready to “pop the question,” you may be dealing today with all the eager anxiety that tends to occur on Valentine’s Day Eve. Will it all go well? Will she actually say “yes”? Hopefully, you’ve planned this just right and made it a romantic night to remember.
I honestly don’t get the guys who propose on the Jumbotron at the basketball game. Really, I have to question what’s behind these relationships. I’m guessing that these are the guys who aren’t quite sure they’re going to get the answer they’re looking for. A guy who does this probably figures that if he asks in front of thousands of fans (and possibly a TV audience), there is no way she’ll turn him down because if she does, she’s likely to get booed. Who wants that? What I want to know is how many of these people actually end up getting married. It’s like The Bachelor. Very few of those final rose recipients end up walking down the aisle.
There’s also the nervous anticipation from the other side. Will he propose? If he tells you he has tickets for the basketball game for Valentine’s Day, you still can’t be sure you’re not getting a proposal. What if he doesn’t propose? Are you going to be ticked? Will you break up with him? That’s a lot to think about.
Then there’s the gift. Personally, I’m not a big jewelry person. The only thing I wear is a small Celtic charm. I know I’m unique in that way. Most women I know would love nothing more than to receive something in a small box, preferably an aqua colored box, from a jewelry store. Flowers are pretty old school. In my book, flowers mean your boyfriend just remembered at the last minute that it’s Valentine’s Day. Candy is the worst. That’s really a last minute gift, particularly if it’s a box of chocolates only available at Walgreens.
Singles who aren’t seeing anyone right now probably have it best as far as gut wrenching anticipation is concerned. They can just plan to go out and party with friends and toast to how much better it is solo. Single is sexy!
The people I feel the worst for are the heartbroken. Remember that line in When Harry Met Sally, and they’re talking about Christmas, and Meg Ryan observes, “Yeah, LOTS of suicides.” Sadly, for some people, the days before Valentine’s Day can be pretty depressing because that’s a pretty big time for “dumping.” People who don’t want to invest in a card or even cheap chocolate decide that they’d rather not provide false hope and cut the cord right before the big day. Trust me, if you’re one of the victims of that and you’re reading this right now, you’re better off without the insensitive jerk!
For me, tomorrow I’m going to opt for a fun party with friends. I certainly don’t want jewelry or candy. I’m also not a fan of the stuffed animal. I worry that a guy who gives me a stuffed animal thinks I’m three-years-old. People who give or enjoy receiving such gifts probably aren’t ready for a serious adult relationship.
Champagne works for me. I’ll use it to celebrate love, life, and the pursuit of everything positive in my life.