Countdown to Valentine’s Day

February 13th, 2013

Every year, it seems like Valentine’s Day just sneaks up on me. Maybe that’s because I’ve never been the one who has to plan for the big day.  I just enjoy it.

If you’re madly in love and even ready to “pop the question,” you may be dealing today with all the eager anxiety that tends to occur on Valentine’s Day Eve.  Will it all go well?  Will she actually say “yes”?  Hopefully, you’ve planned this just right and made it a romantic night to remember.

I honestly don’t get the guys who propose on the Jumbotron at the basketball game. Really, I have to question what’s behind these relationships.  I’m guessing that these are the guys who aren’t quite sure they’re going to get the answer they’re looking for.  A guy who does this probably figures that if he asks in front of thousands of fans (and possibly a TV audience), there is no way she’ll turn him down because if she does, she’s likely to get booed.  Who wants that?  What I want to know is how many of these people actually end up getting married.  It’s like The Bachelor.  Very few of those final rose recipients end up walking down the aisle.

There’s also the nervous anticipation from the other side.  Will he propose?  If he tells you he has tickets for the basketball game for Valentine’s Day, you still can’t be sure you’re not getting a proposal.  What if he doesn’t propose?  Are you going to be ticked?  Will you break up with him?  That’s a lot to think about.

Then there’s the gift.  Personally, I’m not a big jewelry person.  The only thing I wear is a small Celtic charm.  I know I’m unique in that way.  Most women I know would love nothing more than to receive something in a small box, preferably an aqua colored box, from a jewelry store.  Flowers are pretty old school.  In my book, flowers mean your boyfriend just remembered at the last minute that it’s Valentine’s Day.  Candy is the worst.  That’s really a last minute gift, particularly if it’s a box of chocolates only available at Walgreens.

Singles who aren’t seeing anyone right now probably have it best as far as gut wrenching anticipation is concerned.  They can just plan to go out and party with friends and toast to how much better it is solo.  Single is sexy!

The people I feel the worst for are the heartbroken. Remember that line in When Harry Met Sally, and they’re talking about Christmas, and Meg Ryan observes, “Yeah, LOTS of suicides.”  Sadly, for some people, the days before Valentine’s Day can be pretty depressing because that’s a pretty big time for “dumping.”  People who don’t want to invest in a card or even cheap chocolate decide that they’d rather not provide false hope and cut the cord right before the big day.  Trust me, if you’re one of the victims of that and you’re reading this right now, you’re better off without the insensitive jerk!

For me, tomorrow I’m going to opt for a fun party with friends.  I certainly don’t want jewelry or candy.  I’m also not a fan of the stuffed animal.  I worry that a guy who gives me a stuffed animal thinks I’m three-years-old.  People who give or enjoy receiving such gifts probably aren’t ready for a serious adult relationship.

Champagne works for me.  I’ll use it to celebrate love, life, and the pursuit of everything positive in my life.




  1. A J Luna
    Posted Feb 13 2013 at 3:04 pm | Permalink

    We just celebrated a new year and Spring is just around the corner. In the middle of the two we celebrate another day that brings hope, joy and love. It is a day when love is renewed much like the beginning of a new year and causes growth, excitement and the freshness of a Spring day. We throw about the word ‘love’ as though we are experts and executioners of its truth. God said that He loved the world so much that He “gave His only begotten son that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.” And again, “Greater love has no one than this, that one lay down his life for his friends.”

    The Greeks use four words to describe various degrees of love. Which ones have we really perfected? The greatest love is agape. It is a Godly love. Some bibles use charity to describe agape but it is much more than charity as we know it.

    One of my favorite passages describing agape love is 1 Corinthians 13. I’ve copied it here for your convenience. “1 If I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, but do not have love, I have become a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. 2 If I have the gift of prophecy, and know all mysteries and all knowledge; and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. 3 And if I give all my possessions to feed the poor, and if I surrender my body to be burned, but do not have love, it profits me nothing.
    4 Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, 5 does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered, 6 does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; 7 bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. 8 Love never fails; but if there are gifts of prophecy, they will be done away; if there are tongues, they will cease; if there is knowledge, it will be done away. 9 For we know in part and we prophesy in part; 10 but when the perfect comes, the partial will be done away. 11 When I was a child, I used to speak like a child, think like a child, reason like a child; when I became a man, I did away with childish things. 12 For now we see in a mirror dimly, but then face to face; now I know in part, but then I will know fully just as I also have been fully known. 13 But now faith, hope, love, abide these three; but the greatest of these is love. “
    The passage lists a number of powerful abilities but they mean nothing without love. Verses 4 through 8 describe the characteristics of true, enduring Godly love. Christ displayed every characteristic in his life and death. We can also attain this but only through our faith in him. If we love do we love in this manner? Has my love reached that pinnacle?

    Second Peter 1 describes a progression in our growth as Christians. It should not come as a surprise that love is the last step in that growth. “5 For this very reason, you must make every effort to supplement your faith with moral character, your moral character with knowledge, 6 your knowledge with self-control, your self-control with endurance, your endurance with godliness, 7 your godliness with brotherly kindness, and your brotherly kindness with love.”

    You are well thought of, loved and appreciated. I’ve enjoyed your work over the years. You are an exceptional person with special qualities. I hope your Valentine’s Day is joyful.

    Please listen to “Don’t Have Love” by Holly Starr if you have a few minutes on at If you like Christian music view Toby Mac’s “Me Without You” – showing as “Don’t Know Where I’d Be.” It’s a catchy song and relevant to Valentine’s Day.

  2. Davey
    Posted Feb 13 2013 at 3:17 pm | Permalink

    Dee Dee, you sound jaded. As my favorite “political head” brunette on the telly (yeah, I’m a nerd but embody typical dude traits), your post signals that you’re single. I applaud your unwillingness to get caught up in the pageantry of Valentine’s Day, as I, at least through high school and college, felt the same way. I went through the month-long flings and short-term relationships through high school and college; I enjoyed the fun and spontaneity of having someone new. Then, somewhere around the age of 22 or 23, I began to embrace Valentine’s Day. I think I clung to the idea of a designated day of love because of how excited girls got. I’d fallen in love that year, too. I dove right into the idea of Valentine’s Day, though I did it differently.
    The teddy bears and candy, though typical, are OK with me. It’s just for people who can’t think of anything more creative to get or do. I don’t think it makes them any less ready to be in a serious relationship. For me, I do flowers. I don’t do roses, tho. I like lilies and original arrangements. I also like to write a poem and recite it. I’ve gotten exes kittens, Vera Bradley bags, etc. I try to personalize valentine’s day.
    So, to my fave brunette pundit on the telly, I hope you have a thoughtful Valentine like me! ;)
    Seriously, enjoy yourself and don’t drink TOO MUCH.